Warning: Pesto contains nuts and cheese, which some people may be allergic to.

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Photo by Nathalie Jolie on Unsplash

Pesto is delicious. With pasta, potatoes, salads, chicken, fish; on bread.

Pesto is also doable at home. You just need a blender…doesn’t matter if it’s a stick blender or a food processor.

You also need creativity because Pesto isn’t just always pine nuts, Olive oil, and basil leaves…in fact, any combination of flavorful leaves, oily nuts, hard cheese, olive oil, garlic, salt and pepper will result in “pesto”. Your OWN pesto, that is.

Most of all, you need to learn how…


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How dare you categorize women into types!

But that’s what we do as human beings, ha! No, I get it, you’re right…everyone’s unique and different and all…but generally, certain patterns reappear around you, and you can’t help but notice them.

Women: I love them. Empathetic, polite, most of them, most of the time. Always eager to please and be at other people’s service. Sociable. Helpful. Though, if one’s silently judgmental, no one would ever find out.

Friends: Everyone’s doomed to die in the end, so why can’t we all just get along?

Try asking these women that!

#1 Women who…


They’re more than a silly pig family jumping in muddy puddles.

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There’s a lot that’s underrated behind all that silliness. Photo by Charles Deluvio on Unsplash

The Peppa Pig series has received a lot of backlash, for Peppa apparently teaching viewers bad behavior.

To be fair, she does call her father silly and the whole family does tease and laugh at daddy pig’s overweight body. And then there’s the fact that Peppa’s parents practice what one might label as laissez-faire parenting, a parenting style characterized by its permissiveness, whereby “parents avoid providing guidance and discipline, make no demands for maturity, and impose few controls on their child’s behavior”: Indeed, Peppa and her brother George are…


Peanut butter and jelly? So uncreative.

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Photo by Olia Nayda on Unsplash

“If you get right/down to it the new/unprocessed peanut/butter is no damn/good & you should/buy it in a jar as/always in the/largest supermarket/you know” —Eileen Myles, Peanut Butter, Poetry Foundation.

What happens when you’re done purchasing a jar of peanut butter? Do you spread it on a piece of bread? No! That’s what everybody does. And it’s not even the healthiest way to eat peanut butter.

Here’s what you can do instead, that’s also easy (I’m learning too!):

Add peanut butter to yogurt


The Beauty of Language.

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If you’re like me, you’ve had years of looks-based harassment behind you and all kinds of negative experiences related to your countenance that has left you feeling hopeless and worthless. Even today, you continue to struggle to be at peace with what you see in the mirror every morning. And if you’re even more like me, your face has caused you so much pain that only talking to a therapist helps. And if you too, like me, have Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), your preoccupation with your physical appearance becomes so distressing that it impairs your daily…


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Doing some volunteer work at a mental health NGO has made me realize how central self-esteem is to mental health and to how people cope with daily stressors.

Luckily, as I scrolled through my notes as an undergrad, I rediscovered Dr. Robert Brooks’ list of practical ways to develop self-esteem in children. Before I list those 10 ways, let me talk about the epidemic of poor self-esteem a little bit.

It’s crucial that you actually aim to be a parent who develops self-esteem because even though it doesn’t help to blame parents for how we turn out, the science concludes…


self-diagnosed, in retrospect.

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Photo by Nastya Dulhiier on Unsplash

Narcissism is when you can’t regulate your mixed-up negative feelings which makes you feel depressed about yourself deep down inside which makes you act like you’re all ‘good and great’ and demand attention & admiration from others and you judge others a lot yet you’re quick to get offended & angry & aggressive but you never give others any attention nor emotional presence because deep inside you feel that you’re entitled to people’s emotional presence and empathy and you view people as being there to improve your image and make you feel like you’re the best.

That’s…


According to me, of course.

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Old folks like to say that we have to give and take when it comes to close relationships because nobody’s perfect. That we have to “take the good with the bad”, especially because relationships are not all about ourselves.

But these old folks are missing one point. Relationships ARE about us. It’s about how we feel and how the other person feels deep inside. It’s about if we feel safe and accepted by the person; if we can have our basic emotional needs met. Vice versa.

Thus, it’s wrong when some (typically old folks) say…


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Courtesy of Netflix. https://www.netflix.com/my-en/title/80109341

Maus is a 2017 film directed by Gerardo Pereda. It’s ultimately about how the remaining evils of the Serb-Bosnian conflict torment a couple (her and him, boyfriend girlfriend).

First, they get lost. To make things worse, they’re never on the same page as to what the next plan of action should be. …


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Almost everyone experiences body dissatisfaction from time to time, some more severely than others, and even men [to those of you thinking sexistly right now].

Body dissatisfaction, or a negative body image, or poor body esteem, or simply negative feelings and evaluations of one’s body— happens due to a plethora of reasons. You may be surrounded by a body image climate; you might have experienced trauma as a child which has contributed to your low global self-esteem and feelings of self-worth; your friends may have been appearance-focused; the media you consume was most likely misogynistic; your family members may be…

Iffah Suraya Jasni

Reader. Writer. Explorer. Ruminater. Trying to find my peace of mind.

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